1. Get to know your authentic self. 認(rèn)清真實(shí)的自己。

    Discover the real you. Don't blindly accept the role you were conditioned by others to fill. You have your own path to follow. Be your own independent person. Don't allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role。

    發(fā)現(xiàn)真實(shí)的自己。不要盲目接受別人習(xí)慣施加給你的角色。你有自己的路去走。成為獨(dú)立自主的個(gè)體。不要在壓力的屈從下扮演不真實(shí)的自己。

    2. Own your power. 擁有自己的力量。

    Accept full responsibility for your life. Don't live as a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your power. You must accept that you're the creator of your life and that no one is coming to rescue you。

    承擔(dān)起你生活中應(yīng)付的所有責(zé)任。不要活得像個(gè)擦鞋墊、綿羊或者受害者。不要放棄你的力量。你必須認(rèn)為自己是生活的創(chuàng)造者，沒(méi)有人會(huì)來(lái)拯救你。

    3. Find your voice. 傾聽自己的聲音。

    Build the courage to express yourself authentically. Speak your truth. You deserve to be heard. If others react negatively, that's their problem. Ask for what you want; you can't expect others to be mind-readers. You teach others how you want to be treated-not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. If you don't speak up for yourself, who will?

    真實(shí)地建立起表達(dá)自己的勇氣。說(shuō)出你的事實(shí)。你值得別人傾聽。如果別人反應(yīng)很消極，那是他們的問(wèn)題。問(wèn)問(wèn)自己想要什么；不能指望別人能讀懂你的心。告訴別人你想被如何對(duì)待——不是給出提示而是直接告訴他們。如果你不能為自己大聲說(shuō)出需求，還有誰(shuí)會(huì)為你這樣做呢？

    4. Find your tribe. 尋找自己的部落。

    Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of positive relationships, including family and friends. Drop relationships that drain you; maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don't like your current relationships, it's up to you to change that. Surround yourself with good people who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships。

    有意識(shí)地建立和培養(yǎng)一個(gè)積極的包括家庭和朋友在內(nèi)的人際關(guān)系網(wǎng)，結(jié)束拖你后腿的關(guān)系；維持這些關(guān)系純屬自責(zé)。如果你不喜歡當(dāng)下的關(guān)系，那么自己決定是否改變。讓圍繞在你周圍的都是愛(ài)你和鼓舞你的人。你值得擁有最好的人際關(guān)系。

    5. Practice self-care. 照顧好自己的感受。

    Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait. Accept that you can't do everything for everyone. You can't give to others when you're empty inside。

    允許自己做喜歡的事情。別人的需要可以等等。認(rèn)清自己不能為所有的人做所有的事。當(dāng)你內(nèi)心空虛的時(shí)候，你便無(wú)法施與他人。